tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7575440304115231345.post7485634649823613001..comments2023-11-02T04:27:11.019-05:00Comments on All Grown Up: You Don't Get a Thank YouSadiqua: Head Mistress, S.O.S. Inc.http://www.blogger.com/profile/06777494042086431723noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7575440304115231345.post-72948121399147663612009-06-30T08:45:04.119-05:002009-06-30T08:45:04.119-05:00Also, please understand that if you do go forward ...Also, please understand that if you do go forward with the child support he may disappear completely. The law only obligates the non-custodial parent to make the payments each month. The law does not care about making the father spend time with the children or anything beyond the payments. Once he makes the payments, he is free to do as he pleases and never see the child again for the rest of it's life if he so chooses. Unless you specify joint custody...then you would have to pay him when the children are staying with him. It gets messy...<br /><br />Be careful in your decisions, the law is a two-sided razor that cuts just as much as it could help...<br /><br /><br />=[<br />DmDmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12106999922150236540noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7575440304115231345.post-22734645046133705972009-06-30T08:41:53.102-05:002009-06-30T08:41:53.102-05:00Wow. Please understand that I don't know you, ...Wow. Please understand that I don't know you, I just found your blog today. <br /><br />You are being really nice to this deadbeat brotha. I have a child and I know how much it costs to take care of one and even being married it isn't easy. I only have one child with my wife and I struggle, you have two and are living with your parents. <br /><br />I commend you for being the strong sensible smart one and I condemn "Nel" for being the stereotypical piece-of-crap black man that our society seems to have so many of.<br /><br />I hate to say that the courts need to get involved because I know how awful the system is...<br /><br />But something or someone needs to give this deadbeat a beatdown...er wake up call. <br /><br />For his kids sakes...<br /><br />Sincerely,<br />DmDmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12106999922150236540noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7575440304115231345.post-25916069844418184122009-06-24T09:29:13.932-05:002009-06-24T09:29:13.932-05:00Are you serious?? Where the hell is you and your p...Are you serious?? Where the hell is you and your parents thank you for taking care of his child so well??? Niggas kill me thinking that the lil money they give is enough to suffice...Child support is more than your monthly payment..Support is food,shelter,clothes,co-pays,birthday parties,extracurricular activites,medicine,childcare,gas to take them back and forth,necessities..All that has to be split in half so 75 dollars aint nearly enough to cover it!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7575440304115231345.post-83631650581559032542009-06-20T02:54:54.895-05:002009-06-20T02:54:54.895-05:00oh and yea go for that child support thru the cour...oh and yea go for that child support thru the courts! i tried to be nice and shit w/ my oldest daughters dad for a yr and a half but u get nowhere being nice, cus like u said, they like to give u sprinkles! eff that!tampagirlAPhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11932619756563804541noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7575440304115231345.post-3879088178004211492009-06-20T02:52:57.392-05:002009-06-20T02:52:57.392-05:00yea I feel u!!! idk y these boys get options cus w...yea I feel u!!! idk y these boys get options cus we sure dont! we have to take care of the kids and they can decide to just whenever they feel like it!tampagirlAPhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11932619756563804541noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7575440304115231345.post-18685891252002436252009-06-19T12:33:38.675-05:002009-06-19T12:33:38.675-05:00Hi there!
It is absolutely NECESSARY to involve t...Hi there!<br /><br />It is absolutely <b>NECESSARY</b> to involve the courts.<br /><br />If a man does not marry you and make a legal commitment to you before deciding to have children, then he is already handling his priorities <b>OUT OF ORDER</b>!<br /><br />The court will garnish his wages or put him in jail. It's tight but it's right.LISA VAZQUEZhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13583559303233985031noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7575440304115231345.post-65200268394989945112009-06-14T18:36:44.509-05:002009-06-14T18:36:44.509-05:00If I were you I would take him to court because he...If I were you I would take him to court because he is causing your child to suffer. I am sure your child is being taken care of but if he chipped in like he is SUPPOSED she would be taken care of way better.Mz.Papayahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10814184482155239541noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7575440304115231345.post-65200837299150914232009-06-08T09:17:09.124-05:002009-06-08T09:17:09.124-05:00that "say thank you" shit is trife as he...that "say thank you" shit is trife as hell. I agree with SHADGG02 completely. Shit, I say take him through the court system and then give him a smile and a thank you every time that child support comes throughcityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02878849179241300910noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7575440304115231345.post-15203057249437965772009-06-07T15:27:17.834-05:002009-06-07T15:27:17.834-05:00@shad, you know sometimes i wish i could send her ...@shad, you know sometimes i wish i could send her to him and let him see what its like...but unfortunately, the women in his family would immediately take her off his hands VOLUNTARILY. i mean, i love his folks, but they bail their boys out way too easy! His parents even asked if i couldnt afford daycare, i could bring the baby to stay with them during the week and then come get her on weekends...um, really? not that im not appreciative, because i know what kind of people they are and it would truly be to help me out, but hell naw! they live an hour and a half away from here! i refuse!<br /><br />im too damn nice and this is what i get for not putting my foot down, but i truly did want to give him the opportunity to do right, i feel like any woman (unless she knows his ass is trife off top) should at least have a trial period of sorts. the courts are brutal, ive seen one of my bff's get locked up after he had a major accident (aka he died at the scene and they brought him back) and he got behind on his support!!!! went to lock up IN A WHEELCHAIR!!!! so i would prefer to deal with things outside but more and more its looking like it just might have to happen that way...Sadiqua: Head Mistress, S.O.S. Inc.https://www.blogger.com/profile/06777494042086431723noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7575440304115231345.post-35199264768541120442009-06-07T14:23:14.577-05:002009-06-07T14:23:14.577-05:00well said ShadGG...
I have to agree that he needs...well said ShadGG...<br /><br />I have to agree that he needs to get his priorities in order. There is no thank you for doing what needs to be done! His little remark about extra, I would have signed his booty up for child support before he was able to get the a out of his mouth....I wonder if he will be still thinking about extra when he can't afford to eat! Seems to me as though he can't get a grip on how thankful he already is that you weren't on of those baby mothers that was trying to get his whole check because alot of them are still walking around in there clothes and wouldn't dare auction them off to feed there child the father would be eating the crumbs...smh....<br />I hope he gets the point soon. And man's up before his daughter realizes how little he is doing to provide for her....Lilioohpythttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13875807827941902104noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7575440304115231345.post-69831094100231793962009-06-07T12:28:08.324-05:002009-06-07T12:28:08.324-05:00As much I would like to say he needs a thank you, ...As much I would like to say he needs a thank you, here are my concerns:<br /><br />child support is not a priviledge. He was responsible to make that precious baby, he needs to be responsible in taking care of her too.<br /><br />If he thinks trying to get money to you is a pain, then maybe he needs a week or month of fully taking care the baby, while trying to make money. <br />Regardless if u had a job or not, taking care of a child is a full time job.<br /><br />You have been blessed to have parents who want to help you. there are many that are doing it all on their own.<br /><br />So, this whole mess of wanting a thank you for the money? Nawh....keep on moving chick. Has he yet to thank you for not sending his ass through the courts? Has he thanked you for taking care that baby? Has he even thanked you parents for being there for you when he couldn't??<br /><br />I rest my case.Grimlock says "HULK SMASH!!"https://www.blogger.com/profile/07846933879192291861noreply@blogger.com